How do we grieve when we don’t want to be a burden to others? It’s a conundrum.
Then I discovered something that changed my perspective. When we are grieving, time is on our side. Time is our friend as we work our way out of pain and loss. Time allows for the immediacy of grief to dissipate. Time waits for motivation to return. Time allows for rest and recuperation and relief. Time is indeed the great healer.
There will be tears and breath-holding and words that come out sideways as I find my balance and move forward. But I am on the road to healing. I know there will be setbacks – stop-action moments when something trips me up. That’s okay. Grief has long tentacles and doesn’t give up easily. I have faith that my kids, my grandkids, my friends and relatives will keep in touch and keep me on track. I have faith in God who has kept me through the years. When we think we’ve lost our hold on faith, God still holds us.
This message is excerpted from “The grief puzzle” by Ron McCallum in the November/December 2021 Gather magazine.
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