Do speak up when an issue is important to you; Don’t strike when the iron is hot. Do clarify your position; don’t use below-the-belt tactics. Do speak in “I” language; don’t make vague requests. Do appreciate that people are different; don’t tell another what they should think or feel. Do recognize that each person is responsible for their actions; don’t spin wheels trying to convince others you are right. Do avoid speaking through a third party; don’t expect change to come from hit-and-run confrontations.
This message is an excerpt from “Flashing red: the anger signal” by Harriet Lerner in the June 2017 issue of Cafe e-zine. Do you enjoy these free Daily Grace messages? If so, donate now to further the ministry.
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